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Uncategorized Nov 09, 2020

Betty and Carmen have been having fun making these trailers for Betty's book. Hope you enjoy them! Carmen created the concept, Betty filmed them with the help of her neighbor and son, near Seattle, and Carmen edited them. Thank you Carmen, Morgan Frost, and Logan Price!

 

 

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The Wheel of Consent® and Social Justice (by Carmen Leilani)


“What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence?”
– Audre Lorde

One of the first things I ever heard Betty say, something that hit me right in the heart, was “From before we learned to speak, we are trained to go along with things we don’t want. We are conditioned to believe that what is happening is more important than how we feel about it.”  From this I learned that we change how we feel to adapt to discomfort, indignations, violations.  We learn to...

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The Wheel of Consent on video calls (video)

Uncategorized Jun 10, 2020

It's inevitable, isn't it? That someone would start to think of how the Wheel applies over video? The quadrants already apply to more than touch, even though touch is how they were originally noticed and taught.

In this short class at the One World Tantra Festival, Betty and JoJo demonstrate how to adapt the two questions.

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Slowing Down to Receive During Difficult Times (by Robyn Dalzen)


Dear Community,

I hope this finds you happy and healthy at home. Our current reality is looking very different from the world we were living in a month ago, and I imagine your life has been turned on its head. Mine certainly has!

What are you needing right now? Are you able to ask for what you want and need during these turbulent times? For many of us, asking for what we want was a challenge long before this crisis hit, and I imagine this has been exacerbated in recent weeks as past traumas flair up, there is an air of fear and uncertainty, and we are all scrambling to meet the basic needs...

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Understanding Trauma and How to Heal Your Nervous System (by Robyn Dalzen)

healing robyn dalzen trauma Jun 05, 2019


When you think about ‘trauma,’ what do you imagine?

Many people think trauma is a single and specific traumatic event – for example, being in a car accident or being physically or sexually assaulted. This is one type of experience that can create trauma, and there are many others that can be much more subtle and can happen over time.

We have all experienced one kind of trauma or another – simply being in a physical body exposes us to experiences that can result in trauma.

How is trauma defined?

Trauma expert Peter Levine says, “Trauma occurs when an event...

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The Wheel of Consent, Simply Explained (by Rupert Alison)

Thank you Rupert!

You can see the original here: https://www.artofconsent.co.uk/wheel-of-consent-explained

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Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent® is a cutting edge model of consent which distinguishes between the ‘doing’ aspect of an interaction: who is doing? – and the ‘gift’ aspect: who is it for?  Asking these two questions together creates four dynamics of interaction, each of which has a different flavour, and requires a different type of consent agreement to be made. This is the central insight of the Wheel of Consent,...

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2 More on Consent (audio)


A couple more from the files . . .

Consent, Boundaries and Mentoring professionals
~ I am interviewed by Laurie Handler on her WebTalk Radio Show. (about 45 minutes, June 2011)

Consent ~ Consent is more than permission. What’s a request, an offer, an invitation? How the art of consent sets you free. (40 minutes, October 2011) This is a recorded conference call - remember those?

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Ongehoord! Some Consent Myths (audio)

audio consent interview Jun 13, 2018


Here’s recent podcast with Marije Janssen – we cover the Wheel, of course, along with trying to define sex, sexuality, consent. Requests, offers and invitations. Also debunking a few consent myths.

The first minute or so is in Dutch. Then the conversation is in English.

Thank you, Marije!

Ongehoord! aflevering 1 – Consent: in gesprek met Betty Martin

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Can you play with the Wheel by yourself?


This is a question that came up recently and I’d like to answer it.

The Wheel of Consent is a diagram of what happens when 2 (or more) people make an agreement about touch. It’s also more than that. It describes dynamics that occur between people who have not agreed, or who maybe think they have but their partner doesn’t think so. And it describes dynamics between groups of people, like nations. When your nation (as mine does) dominates another nation or group, for material gain, cheap labor, and so on, that’s described by the Wheel, mainly the shadow of it.

The...

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Like a Pro and the Wheel of Consent (video)

like a pro practitioners Jan 03, 2018


Thank you, Carole, for inviting me, and offering this interview. I look forward to being there!

 

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